We're talking about planning a wedding and giving out a little advice on how to relieve wedding stress!
I am a little concerned about some of you and your wedding stress. I was casually scrolling through facebook the other day and came across a small rant from an acquaintance who has been planning her wedding for a few months now. She was irritated because she was unable to get vendors to return her calls, she'd had a series of miscommunications with a few vendors, and she was overall not having a fun time planning her wedding.
The part that broke my heart was in the comment section. One of her so called friends was comforting her by saying "it's all part of the experience".
I froze and looked at that comment for a good bit. It made me want to cringe and cry and throw things all at the same time. Here's the cold hard truth.
It does not have to be stressful to plan your wedding.
No matter what your goal is. No matter how many guests you're having or how "relaxed" or "casual" you wanted it to be. Nothing replaces wedding stress in your life like hiring a professional to do their job. Just to be clear I'm saying you should hire a wedding planner.
I love an extended and horrible metaphor so here it goes:
What you want:
Imagine your wedding is an origami folding party. You'll need a lot of things, including some paper. So you head to your local office supply company and tell them what you're doing. They find the paper you need and sell it to you. They don't do that for free because they have bills to pay too. But they did get you a sweet deal on that paper because they have a great relationship with the paper supplier. Party is awesome.
Working with wedding vendors is just like working with any other vendor in any other industry.
What you don't want:
Imagine you don't think you need that silly office supply company. You walk into a paper supplier and ask for your paper to be cheaper because you're doing some really relaxed origami. It's not fancy origami it's just chill origami. (Please imagine the looks you would get from the paper company.) Why would they do it for cheaper? You don't know anything about their business. You are an added "vendor" to their normal work load so they have to make all kinds of changes to accommodate your requests. You don't know what kind of paper you need. You don't know where the trucks deliver. You can't even tell them how much paper you need. Shouldn't they know that? You are a burden to their otherwise smooth operation. It's a mess. You run out of paper and no one had fun at your origami party. Pinterest fail.
Ok, I know that sounds a little harsh. You're not a burden. But you get the point. Wedding Planners are not a made up money grabbing scheme. They love planning. They love networking. They love learning about vendors and their styles. They love problem solving and clarifying situations. They love, well, love. Call your local planner because I promise feeling stressed is not part of the experience.
Comment below with why you hired a planner for your big day!
How to get in touch:
Rowan Lane is a wedding & events planning company in Raleigh, NC focused on creating the stress-free planning experience for all your event needs.
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